Learning to Trust Again
By Kate
It takes time!
One of the hardest things when trust has been broken is to accept that repairing the situation takes time. Peggy Vaughan, whose site can be reached through our Marriage Clinic area suggests, in one of her articles, that it can take at least two years to rebuild after an affair . Both of you will need to be patient and persevering.
For the one who has broken the trust there will probably be a desire to move on as quickly as possible to escape the pain, but the one who has been hurt will need time to work things through. Remember that unless they are allowed to do this, they may have trouble trusting anyone again.
For the one who has been hurt, patience will also be needed, patience with a spouse who is struggling to overcome some weakness or temptation, who has to come to terms with the consequences of what they have done. Perseverance may be needed to stand by your spouse and your wedding vows.
There are no guarantees in life that trust can be rebuilt or hurts healed, but if you both work together then there is hope. When two flawed human beings consent to share the rest of their lives together in marriage, there are bound to be difficulties along the way. Joy can come through working through the difficult times and learning to love and accept each other as you really are.
