First Aid for Marriage

By Eric Bird of Family College for Marriage Resource

What next?

You may find that your help, small though it may seem, has really helped the ones who turned to you. On the other hand, it may have caused them to realise that they have problems that do need more specialised attention. If this is the case, then from the basis of trust you have already built, you may be able to recommend to them that they take things a step further. Your encouragement in this could be quite crucial.

If there is even a hint of an underlying medical condition, they need to see their G.P. If the problems are purely relational then there are many counselling agencies which could help. A visit to the nearest Citizens Advice Bureau may be useful, or if they are church-goers their minister may be able to make a recommendation.

If they refuse to accept anything you say, let them know that you are still there if they want to talk again. Remember, if the situation doesn't improve, it's not your fault! The responsibility is entirely their own.