By Pairs International Inc
behaviors are the little things that make your friends and family feel better
and cared about. They are not
monumental things. In happy
relationships there are lots of caring behaviors occurring on a steady basis.
people tend to give others what they want for themselves. What you are getting that is not exactly what you want may be exactly
what your friends or family want from you. Take the time to find out.
would you complete the following sentence?
I feel cared about when...
about during special circumstances, such as when you are sick, tired, worried,
afraid or unhappy. What makes you
feel cared about in these situations.
When I am sick, I feel cared about when others...
When I am tired, I feel cared about when others...
When I am worried, I feel cared about when others...
When I am afraid, I feel cared about when others...
When I am unhappy, I feel cared about when others...
Create a list (see sample below) and write down
ten specific behaviors that your partner does or
could do that make you feel cared about, special,
Post the list where it can be seen each day.
Ask you partner to do the same on their own list.
Do at least three caring
behaviors from your partner's list each day.
Review both lists each night.
On your list put the date in
the box beside each behavior your partner did
that day and thank your partner for the caring
With your partners' list, note
if there were positive behaviors you did that
your partner didn't notice or mark, and, if so,
gently call attention to them.