Living with a bi-sexual husband

I am a mother of 4 boys and a stay at home mom as well, who has recently found out by accident that after 18 years of marriage that my husband is bi-sexual.

I am in such pain and turmoil and really don't know how to work with this information. Firstly, I still love him dearly, but at the same time I am afraid that I will be dumped for one of the other men!

He is not open or honest about his bi-sexuality and does not like to talk about it.

He has been lying to me and himself on this issue, and I have had to deal with plenty of emotional abuse over the years, probably due to issues that he was trying to deal with.

My self esteem has taken a huge "knock", as I realize that I will never always be "enough" or to satisfy my husband completely. The fear of him leaving us very unsettling and has affected my security level greatly.

I am not sure if he loves me or is in "love " with me.

At the same time I need to honor my feelings and need to be loved unconditionaly as I deserve it.

I want to take my feelings and needs into consideration first, but I have 4 children who love their father, plus we are all very dependant on my husband financially.

This is the first time that when faced with a problem that I don't know how to deal with.

I feel sometimes that I make his newly discovered lifestyle easy for him as I choose to ignore it, by being very dependable with the children, cooking, cleaning and by keeping the "home fires" burning.

any advise from anyone in the same "boat" would be greatly appreciated.

He has to be honest with you but i doubt he will ever want to talk about it in detail - He could be doing it just to fullfill sexual fantasies
It doesn't have to mean he's going to become gay and run off and leave you for a man or ever want to be with a man
still i dont think they lose that Bi sexual thing so you have to work out if you can live with it
statistically the odds are against your relationship working out now you know this but if your both honest and he puts his family before his selfish needs you have a better chance

[HILLBILLY]

Hi , I am new here and I am a Bi-Sexual husband . Maybe a different view can help some ?

My loving wife and I have four children and are happy as can be . I had been Bi in the past and when I married my wife I stayed true to only her . Our sex lives dropped slowly to maybe once every several months . Yall know , kids running everywhere and things to do with chores and work etc .

Well , I finaly told my wife I was Bi before and having thoughts about it again . At first she was a bit stummped but slowly began asking what it was like and such . Now , two years after our discussion , She finaly wanted to watch and she went nuts ! Loves it , and it refired our sex drives with eachother like we were new again .

I would NEVER leave my darling wife for another man either by the way . I guess different folks have results that would be more destructive too . Maybe a view from my side will help though ? I hope so and good luck to you .

Best wishes ,
Bradlee

oh, thats not right. ok i am straight - bi ? yuk!

righty, well if u ignore it - it wont rest well with u
if u talk about it - like - why etc maybe u can both really dig up why he wants a bi experience ? there's going to be more to it than some 'fantasy'.

if he aint comfortable talking, use glasses of wine/beer - that get u both open, confident, and talking!

:@)

TheMaleStar!