Re: Help - Wife Lost Attraction And Ready To Leave
Try not to panic. As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse myself I can tell you that your wife's feelings are not all about you. The issue is she is about to start therapy for her abuse and that has thrown up all sorts of feelings, including barriers to her sexuality. She must have endured several ordeals as a child, and the way she dealt with it was to close off her feelings. Now she is trying to slay the dragon and she is doing what comes naturally - she is closing herself off emotionally. What she needs is support, reassurance and no pressure.
I am not going to say encourage her to talk because she may not be in that place yet. You will need a great deal of patience to deal with this because it isn't going to be easy. You will feel rejected, neglected and at times suffocated by her self-absorption. It isn't deliberate; it is what most of us do to get through it. The good news is this distance will not last forever. And if you are there for her and can assure her that you will always be there for her and nothing will change the way you feel about her, chances are she will open up to you - when she is ready.
Of course, the sexual abuse may not be the whole story. You mentioned 'other things'. I don't know what these things are but would suggest that you wait until she has worked on her issues for a while and then talk to her about speaking to her therapist about the timing of relationship counselling for both of you.
I hope you manage to work things out.