Just so stupid it's funny!

Ok this isn't so much a marriage problem but it's so unbelievable that I had to write it down.
It was my Ex's turn to have the kids this weekend gone so at approx. 5.30 pm I dropped them off but found there was no answer. Giving him the benefit of the doubt, thinking that he may still be working (he's started working after a long time on benefits, though he didn't tell me I guess incase I asked for maintenance) I left and returned an hour later. Still no one at home and no response from either his mobile or home phone. As you can imagine I was getting a little annoyed about this and the kids were getting hungry as he was supposed to feed them. So I take them for some dinner and go back to their dads house after.
Result this time, the kitchen light is on and I can see Ex cooking but as I turned the corner and knocked on the back door everything went quiet and he disappeared. I knocked on the door, looked through windows but to no avail. He'd disappeared!
So after about 10 minutes I decided to take the car around the corner and try his front door.
When we all get round there we can see Ex and his new GF in the kitchen through the frosted glass of the front door but, again, as soon as we knock on the door they disappear. I knock on the door loudly, shout through the letter box that we've seen them so they might as well come out but nothing. My eldest son looks through the letterbox and says 'look mum they're there!' As I look through I see GF bum and elbow BEHIND the cooker! They are hiding from me and the kids behind a kitchen appliance like a pair of kids.
For the next half hour or so we all knock, tell them that we can see them, I tell them that. as they have ruined my evening by this time, that I'm happy to stay there until they answer the door but if they wanted to spend the night behind the oven that was up to them. I said all sorts of things to get them to come out but nothing seemed to be working. I felt guilty for the kids seeing what was happening but I wasn't just going to go away and let him feel like he'd won this as he agreed to the arrangement that we'd made for the children.
Anyway after more than half an hour the GF gets up and answer the door and proceeds to shout at me saying how dare I say that she didn't love the kids...find that a little hard to believe when they have spent so long hiding from them...the Ex won't even talk to me and has a face like a slapped ****. The kids were taken in and I just walked away, wound up, dumbfounded and feeling like I was in a surreal dream.
The whole situation was so stupid I find it humourous...still can't believe it really happened nearly a week on.

and you left the kids with them after all that........

mine did this to me a while ago but he thought I would kill him >G< not sure if GF was there then but he seemed to have diarrhoea of the gob on his mobile ..bless him.

I can see that it must have been kind of funny BUT I wouldn't have left my children there..... I'd rather struggle on my own and give my children all the love and attention alone than leave them with someone that obviously doesn't want them!

Its not easy though and I can see why you persisted in leaving the children because you need some time off and you want a life but is he really a good dad if he's hiding from his kids? Didn't the children feel hurt that their dad wasn't interested in having them? My kids would have just said "lets go home".... I feel sorry for your children really and what his behaviour has done to them!

My ex may not want to see the kids sometimes but I think he just makes up elaborate excuses when he's not interested!

No I don't think their behaviour was funny, it was sad. And sad for the kids especially. Sorry Teally, I know these situations can be difficult and the behaviour of your ex and GF was pathetic, but I would not have left my children with them either. Frankly I'd be tempted to just get on with my life, love my kids to bits, and tell ex and his dumb heartless GF to go to hell until they can behave like adults.

I suppose this situation is so tragic it's humourous in a very dark way. Unfortunately, I don't think anyone "won" here - on the contrary, all parties lost, especially the children. How terrible to feel unwanted.

Yes I did leave the kids with him because at the end of the day they want to see him, even after he hid.

I agree with you all that it's a very sad and at the end of the day if it would have been the best for the kids to take them home I would have.

I'm not sure what sort of father he is now but as far as I can tell the kids have a good time. And I need a little time to myself to be the best mum I can be.

Don't get me wrong, if the time comes where he becomes unable to treat the kids properly then I will not hesitate to keep the kids with me but for now I think it's important for my children to see their father.

Teally, not trying to be judgemental at all. It just appeared that from his actions, he seemed unable to even take care of himself, let alone the kids. I wonder how he "explained" his "hide and seek" game to the kids ..... let's see some possible headlines:

"we were playing hide and seek"
"we were f****ng and mommy interuppted us"
"i didn't hear the knocking"
"we thought you were robbers"
"we were cleaning"
"we didn't realise you were coming over so early"
"we forgot"

Either way, it was a funny in a sad kinda way story. I hope your kids are more mature than your ex-H.

It must be a trying time for you, so here's a big cyber HUG to get you through all the BS you have to go to ensure your kids still see their daddy!