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Old 19th March 2015, 09:42 PM   #16
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I will be finishing work tomorrow around 2pm UK time so I will be here if you want to talk like this, so your 5 hours behind so I will be here USA time 9 am or so, I think thats right, meanwhile sign up for FB
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Old 19th March 2015, 09:44 PM   #17
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We truly know what it's like to have promises made that were broken--not by us, but by people we loved so much. We were faithful, patient, waiting. How does true love die? How can people who promise forever walk away? I could live to be 90 like my grandparents on my father's side and never understand this. : (
try not to overthink things or to think too far in to the future, try to concentrate on now and the next few hours, have you family or friends close by you can call on or can come to you ?
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Old 19th March 2015, 09:51 PM   #18
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Also LDT not nagging you but as soon as you can try to see you Doctor and tell him whats happened he may be able to help you, I am sure I couldn't of got through without their support and meds they put me on.
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Old 19th March 2015, 09:57 PM   #19
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Well, I do see my therapist (counselor) in 8 days. That should help, I guess.
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Old 19th March 2015, 10:03 PM   #20
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Well, I do see my therapist (counselor) in 8 days. That should help, I guess.
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can you see him sooner ? tell them whats happened and say can they see you sooner under the circumstances you need to be talking this through straight away 8 days will give you too much time to dwell go on its still afternoon pick up the phone go onplease LDT for me and all the others on here that care about you
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Old 19th March 2015, 10:10 PM   #21
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LDT goodnight from the UK look after yourself see you tommoroow thinking of you chin up best you can xx
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Old 19th March 2015, 10:15 PM   #22
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You both have no idea what your messages meant to me. They are like a lifeline right now. I am still crying, and I have never felt worse in my life. To have someone that has said "I love you" thousands of times tell you they don't love you is so devastating. I have no words for the pain I feel right now.
I feel for you so much
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Old 19th March 2015, 10:18 PM   #23
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Something has truly died today. I'm ashamed that I am so distraught. I am ashamed that I am so weak. The wine has truly hit me. I sent a bunch of angry emails to my STBX. And I don't even care.
Dont be ashamed, anyone would be devastated at what has happened. Its a terrible shock.
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Old 19th March 2015, 10:23 PM   #24
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LT, sadly faithfulness and keeping promises made doesnt mean much to many people. My brother is the nicest guy you could meet, and both his wives cheated on him, one with 4 different men. She is married to the last man she cheated with, and now has terminal cancer in her 50's, and he is so worried and concerned for her, despite what she did. Thats the sort of guy he is. Sometimes there is no explanation except for pure selfishness.
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Old 19th March 2015, 10:31 PM   #25
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I feel for you so much
Thank you. Your kindness and understanding is so helpful.
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Old 19th March 2015, 10:32 PM   #26
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LT, sadly faithfulness and keeping promises made doesnt mean much to many people. My brother is the nicest guy you could meet, and both his wives cheated on him, one with 4 different men. She is married to the last man she cheated with, and now has terminal cancer in her 50's, and he is so worried and concerned for her, despite what she did. Thats the sort of guy he is. Sometimes there is no explanation except for pure selfishness.
Selfishness. That is the word that explains it all.

What an amazing man your brother is.
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Old 20th March 2015, 07:43 AM   #27
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Selfishness. That is the word that explains it all.

What an amazing man your brother is.
Yes he is and a brilliant father. His second wife left him and their 2 teenagers for the man she is now married to(whose first wife had only just died of cancer when they moved in together!!!!), and he was there for them in their pain. They are now lovely young adults.
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Old 20th March 2015, 11:12 AM   #28
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Hi LDT just checking in to see how you are, it is just past 10am here in the UK I will be back on here around 2pm for as long as you might need to swap messages.
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Old 20th March 2015, 11:54 AM   #29
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Hi LDT. I am so sorry. There is never a good way to break up a marriage. No 'correct' way to do it. All of us here going through the same thing will say the same. They say the darkest hour comes just before dawn. Let's hope your dawn is breaking. Have faith in yourself.
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Old 20th March 2015, 12:36 PM   #30
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Really sorry Lindentree. Any practical advice or support you need, just ask. We will be with you in this. I am not religious, however I do fully agree with NDY that the darkest hour comes before the dawn.
Be kind to yourself
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