Hi Raymond and thank you so much for you reply
I would definitely agree that the honeymoon period is over for us. I think it ended a while ago. My husband told me last week that he felt the spark was gone. He said he wants to get those "butterflies" he used to get for me. I'll admit this saddened me quite a bit as I still get those for him. Anyway, that's why he finally agreed to go to counseling with me (I've been asking him for months).
One of the major problems on my end is the lack of intimacy. We have had sex 3 times since the baby was born. I've brought it up countless times, but he just isn't interested in it anymore. I'll admit that I don't try to initiate anything, but that's only because I'm afraid of being rejected by him. It's tough considering we're only 26 and haven't been married that long.
Another major issue for us is his stepson and how to blend 2 families together. He admitted to me yesterday that he thinks that will be the thing that does us in if we do end up splitting up. Definitely something I'm looking forward to talking about in counseling. But I've been bothered that he made that comment. I hate thinking about us getting a divorce. He's also made comments saying that he really wants to make things work for the sake of our daughter, that she makes it much harder to give up. I totally agree with him, but it hurts to think he might not be feeling like he loves me as much as he did.
We've both moved countries to be together, so we've made some major sacrifices for this relationship without having a very solid foundation. I definitely think that has added to our problems.
I guess I'm just hoping we are going through a rough patch right now and we'll get through this.I know marriage is hard, I just didn't think it would be this tough so soon into it.
And I apologize if my thoughts seem a bit scattered and ambiguous... It's been a long day with the baby so I'm a bit exhausted.