Re: Need some advice please...
Christine
I am married for the second time as is my husband. He has 2 children form his first marriage, and I have three from mine. All are adults now. We didnt marry till our late 40's and were way past wanting any more children. I am not bothered at all that we didn't have kids together,it make no difference to me as we are definately a family. He is a very good step dad to my 3 children(all left home years ago), in fact he has a far better relationhsip with them than with his own children(largely due to their mothers influence)
As for the other wife, why are you even seeing her? Why are you having any contact with her at all? The ONLY contact that either of should be having is when the children are being collected or dropped off for contact, or any problems with the children.
Sadly when there are several ex partners and children from them, there can be lots of problems. My husbands ex caused problems, but because their children were by then aged 18 and 21, my husband was able to tell her that there would be no contact unless it was a emergency involving the boys, (bearing in mind that it was she who cheated and divorced him, yet she couldnt let him go it seemed.)
I would suggest some good marriage counselling so that you can both set boundaries for contact and what you will both permit in reference to the behaviour of his ex.
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