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Old 21st March 2015, 06:11 PM   #1
confusedwifey
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Unhappy He wants some space

So I've been with my husband for 25 years. We got together at 17. We had 3 children. We have had trouble for many years. I have been employed part time for 4 years now. Our main issue is our finances. We are behind on our Mortgage payments, behind on our bills and I dont know how to fix things. I have tried endlessly to find more work but it is extremely difficult. We have our own small business and it was booming at one time but now business is very slow. I feel my husband blames me for everything.
Our financial situation, he says we dont know how to manage our money. He says I dont love him because I dont try hard enough with finding a job or taking care of our finances. I have always tried taking care of my family. I have been in charge of everything raising kids, running business, all household duties but since I have never had a full time job its not enough. We have been disconnected for years now. He has always been the one to be away from home, if it wasn't hanging with his boys now its gym time and he arrives home every day after 8pm. He says he doesn't want to be home because we dont communicate. I try everything and its never enough. Now he says he needs his space and is going to move out. I dont feel like he even lives me any more. Im so lost and confused I dont know how to make him happy. I wish i can snap my fingers and find a job but ive tried everything. Should I give up too? Im so confused
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Old 22nd March 2015, 11:46 AM   #2
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Re: He wants some space

I am not qualified to offer advice but I just want you to know that I feel for you and my hopes and prayers are with you at this terrible time in your life.
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Old 22nd March 2015, 10:37 PM   #3
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Re: He wants some space

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So I've been with my husband for 25 years. We got together at 17. We had 3 children. We have had trouble for many years. I have been employed part time for 4 years now. Our main issue is our finances. We are behind on our Mortgage payments, behind on our bills and I dont know how to fix things. I have tried endlessly to find more work but it is extremely difficult. We have our own small business and it was booming at one time but now business is very slow. I feel my husband blames me for everything.
Our financial situation, he says we dont know how to manage our money. He says I dont love him because I dont try hard enough with finding a job or taking care of our finances. I have always tried taking care of my family. I have been in charge of everything raising kids, running business, all household duties but since I have never had a full time job its not enough. We have been disconnected for years now. He has always been the one to be away from home, if it wasn't hanging with his boys now its gym time and he arrives home every day after 8pm. He says he doesn't want to be home because we dont communicate. I try everything and its never enough. Now he says he needs his space and is going to move out. I dont feel like he even lives me any more. Im so lost and confused I dont know how to make him happy. I wish i can snap my fingers and find a job but ive tried everything. Should I give up too? Im so confused
Is there someone else? He is staying away from home a lot, trying to improve his appearance (the gym), wanting to leave, etc.

I'm so sorry you're going through a hard time.

Do you want to work it out? If you do, make it clear to him, and see how he responds.

Keep in touch and let us know how it works out.
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Old 13th April 2015, 07:12 AM   #4
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This is extremely pleasant and respectable post....You shook posting it....Thanks a great deal for posting it....!!!
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