Site Areas
Wedding Centre
Health Club
Marriage Clinic
Chapel
University
Citizen's Centre
Coffee Shop
Admin Centre

Contents
Articles
Books
CDs / Videos
Tips
Services

Resources
Forums
Membership
Contact Us
Site map
Link to Us

Search

Take the Couple Check-up!

Marriage Week UK

Marriage first aid

Online support for your marriage

Free Tell A Friend from Bravenet


Home > Forums
2-in-2-1 Discussion Forums  

Go Back   2-in-2-1 Discussion Forums > General > Coffee Shop Chat

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 25th January 2012, 07:03 PM   #2191
chosen
Registered User
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Posts: 5,794
Re: Living In A Sexless Marriage

yes if after lots of prayer, and lots of opportunities have been given, someoen is still on that path of destruction then it may be time to call it a day. However I do have friends whose husbands have changed after many many years or praying(not porn but other things) I suppose it all depends on how long we are prepared to wait and believe that things will change. I believe that God rewards faith.

A man in my fellowship group prayed and trusted God for several years for his marriage to be restored. His wife had a drink problem and wanted a divorce. They were seperated for some time. He refused to believe that they would get divorced, and now they have been back togather for about 18 months, and they seem to be doing really well.
chosen is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 25th January 2012, 07:13 PM   #2192
Raymond
Moderator
 
Join Date: Dec 2006
Posts: 6,409
Re: Living In A Sexless Marriage

That's really good but sexual morality is in an area of it's own.

As it happens I just got an e mail from her which reads.

Ah, Raymond things are going very well! In all areas! My business is doing better, I am feeling better and I can't complain about much at all except getting things settled with him. Other than that, everything is coming up roses. I am well beyond the pom's, trust me. I was there for a short time because honestly, I couldn't have been more alone than I was, and not being abused constantly is also wonderful. I am also coming back into my own in terms of who I am and what I stand for and hold dear, and I feel empowered to be able to express that.*

Hope things are well with you, dear friend!

Liz

pom means Poor Old Me. She had prayed but it was obvious to me that she had to confront and make good her challenges. She sounds like a new person to me compared to what she was under it all.
Raymond is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 25th January 2012, 07:46 PM   #2193
chosen
Registered User
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Posts: 5,794
Re: Living In A Sexless Marriage

yes, and if she was being abused as well, it isnt surprising that she feels better now.Each spouse needs to make that choice whether to wait it out in faith or call it a day. I dont condemn either.
chosen is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 25th January 2012, 07:48 PM   #2194
1aokgal
Guest
 
Posts: n/a
Re: Living In A Sexless Marriage

Raymond..

Thank you for your post. Dear, you need never eat humble pie in your response to me.

My advise to Sue was far after the fact of her separation as she posted here. She wondered now if that was the right decision that she made. Likely, it was not as easy to separate from that marriage as she may have thought everything would be smooth sailing. It can be very difficult and lonely for a long time. I agree with you completely that Sues' acceptance of porn as an addition to the marital bed was a HUGE mistake.

She went along with the program to please him. I don't see most women being delighted with images of other women, as the carrot in their sex moves, in the bedroom. So, once the devil was in her bedrom, it wasn't going to be shut outside the door. She compromised and you cannot compromise such a prurient interest. He was so addicted to the porn that he didn't waver when she said that was unacceptable.

That is adultery in the sense we know here. I think she learned from such an experience to be stronger in her integrity about what is acceptable or not in a future marriage. I do think men hear different bells than women!

This forum helped me become stronger in my bond a few years ago when I came here. You are part of that, as is Chosen and a few others posters, who share concern here for those in crisis. While we do not always completely agree, I respect your viewpoint.
  Reply With Quote
Old 25th January 2012, 11:43 PM   #2195
saralee
Guest
 
Posts: n/a
Re: Living In A Sexless Marriage

Before giving up, why not try to do something about it....it is a vital part of most marriages...if you don't have a counselor to talk to...read the Sex Starved Marriage or talk to one of the christian coaches at the divorcebusting.com site...take good care and do what you think is best for you
  Reply With Quote
Old 28th January 2012, 05:22 AM   #2196
1aokgal
Guest
 
Posts: n/a
Re: Living In A Sexless Marriage

In my marriage, intimacy is no longer an agenda. There are other fine elements in the marriage even when he is in some other part of the world, as we talk almost daily by phone or email. He is gone many months at a time. One adapts to all issues.

I enjoy my painting time and work from home, so it is just the animals and I. My daughter lives nearby and I see friends. Some of them are quite envious of my uncomplicated world.
  Reply With Quote
Reply

Tags
None

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is Off
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is Off
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump


All times are GMT +1. The time now is 01:05 AM.


Powered by vBulletin®
Copyright ©2000 - 2024, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.


Top

Copyright ©1999-2024 2-in-2-1 Limited. All rights reserved. Disclaimer