Re: Living In A Sexless Marriage
Raymond..
Thank you for your post. Dear, you need never eat humble pie in your response to me.
My advise to Sue was far after the fact of her separation as she posted here. She wondered now if that was the right decision that she made. Likely, it was not as easy to separate from that marriage as she may have thought everything would be smooth sailing. It can be very difficult and lonely for a long time. I agree with you completely that Sues' acceptance of porn as an addition to the marital bed was a HUGE mistake.
She went along with the program to please him. I don't see most women being delighted with images of other women, as the carrot in their sex moves, in the bedroom. So, once the devil was in her bedrom, it wasn't going to be shut outside the door. She compromised and you cannot compromise such a prurient interest. He was so addicted to the porn that he didn't waver when she said that was unacceptable.
That is adultery in the sense we know here. I think she learned from such an experience to be stronger in her integrity about what is acceptable or not in a future marriage. I do think men hear different bells than women!
This forum helped me become stronger in my bond a few years ago when I came here. You are part of that, as is Chosen and a few others posters, who share concern here for those in crisis. While we do not always completely agree, I respect your viewpoint.
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