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Old 9th May 2014, 07:38 PM   #1
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Need some perspective

So here is the scenario:

Spouse A watches porn, discusses porn with spouse B, uses porn as spice it up element, spouse also gets angry w spouse B for noticing and commenting on appearances of people on tv

Spouse B is not so much into porn, accepts spouse A's interest in porn, entertains porn discussion and material for intimate purposes, does comment on facial features, clothing of people of tv, but never in comparison to Spouse B or whether tv people are attractive or not.

What is your take on this scenario?

Is spouse B in the wrong for being resentful over spouse A's actions? Any other ideas, perspectives or advice welcomed.
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Old 9th May 2014, 08:19 PM   #2
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Porn use is always a bad idea, and in my opinion never acceptable. It damages the way we see sex and our spouse, and often the one who looks at porn gets to the point where he cant get aroused without it. The only people we should see naked and having sex is our spouse. By looking at porn and lusting after other people, you are being unfaithful.
In my marriage its a no no for myself and my husband.
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Old 9th May 2014, 08:21 PM   #3
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I am assuming spouse B is a wife. That being the case she has every right to be resentful of her husband watching porn if that is the right word. Porn cuts away at the intimacy of a marriage and in my opinion is actually mental adultery.

Commenting on peoples appearance is a trifle compared to A's habit of watching porn.
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Old 11th May 2014, 05:33 AM   #4
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I don't think porn is needed if you are still attracted to each other.
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porn, resentment

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