Your husband will not get over his addiction to porn by himself! Buy him the book: "Every Man's Battle" by Steve Artteburn (sp?) and get him to an Every Man's Battle workshop (look at Newlife.com for info). And yes, leave him if he won't get help! You MUST! Addiction cannot be broken easily and unless you want a life of porn, you had better nip this in the bud. He can be cured but he HAS to get professional help. You must tell him he can have his porn OR he can have you--not both. And then stand by it no matter what it takes. And I hope you're not planning to bring children into this sick relationship??
Pornography is addicting, it is progressive for most men. Go to the link:
http://www.protectkids.com/effects/...ofaddiction.htm
and understand the problem better.
Porn is dangerous and destructive and it WILL destroy your marriage IF YOU ALLOW IT! DON'T!!! Do whatever it takes--and I mean WHATEVER--to get your husband off porn. He doesn't need it--he's just addicted. But he won't get off it by himself and you are going to have to stand up for what is right when he cannot. Be willing to go to whatever lengths it takes to get him away from this addiction.
If your husband is not willing to get help, then you must leave. You will NEVER be happy with a man who commits adultery every week, perhaps every day. YES, he IS committing adultery because he is OBVIOUSLY lusting after these other women big time. Adultery is in the mind, so Christ told us clearly! What does it matter that he has not actually 'done' anything with any of these women? He HAS in his mind and that is as good as having done it! He may as well bring all these women into your home and bedroom each day, because he is in his mind!
Please do not put up with this one more day! Love demands that you be tough on this or you cannnot continue to love him and it is clear he cannot love you as long as he has any other woman in his thoughts.
Jane