Re: I need to put the past behind me--Need advice
This is curious to me Deb becasue five years is a long time and throughout this time you should have found what you want in life and put the past behind. It is said that women usually pick similarities in men that attract us to them and sometimes these are our worst enemies. Could it be that there are some things about his personality that are more liberal thatn you would be, but those are the same things that attracted you to him most? If you had valid reason to accuse him of being unfaithful than there is not much working out to do, but if it is a simple conversation with another woman that makes you feel uneasy than you do need help. However reading books, and counseling are just steps. You have to make a difference in your attitude. Be careful of how you accuse. Question or comment, ex: you know, I felt a little uneasy when you _____with the neighbor. Express yourself. Don't argue suspicions, gather facts. If you feel like this than you are more than likely not making him feel good either. I know I may have people against me on this one, but if Love is real Love will wait. Take time, if it is that seriously infering with your relationship. Sometimes we need to take a step back in order to take a step forward. Be willing to acknowledge your problem and understand that misery does not love company. Don't dissolution your man with what problems you have and then blame them on him. Really work on those things and do not cusion on the fact that he knows and it's okay to behave that way. I have felt insecure several times in my relationship and my wanting to be happy is what made me tired. If he's going to cheat he will get caught as long as I am attentive becasue I care and not because I am being dominant.
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