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Old 31st July 2017, 11:30 PM   #1
Starmate
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2004

Hello, I came here in 2004, some may remember. People were lovely, so caring, considerate and kind. I used this forum to get me through and it did, I didn't have support from my husband and was in and out of depression for years. His internet addiction chat rooms etc. I found out about back then, I thought I was going to die it all got worse drinking, cheating, he was a narcissist. Anyway, the point of my post is - I remember reading on here (can't remember who wrote) but it sticks with me and has done for all these years - the author wrote in response to a post (quite cutting) - " leave your husband and watch your depression lift"!! Not that I took the advice or thought about it in depth but it's where I am at all these years later and that person was right. I'm on holiday, alone first time ever but I'm ok. Left hub last year couldn't take any more. But still struggle with guilt, shame and anger I suppose. So I'm in Spain at the moment doing what I want to do when i want. I don't feel weird about being here alone but the rest of the place do look at me like 'YOU? are alone here????? I dont care. My point Is?? It's easy to be with the wrong person, I done it for 20yrs plus, biggest mistake of my life and feel like such a fool, i can't help i. I thought the world of him, he didn't of me obviously. But making the most of where I am. It's a situation I thought I'd never be in - loved him so much. I have to move on. It's hard but I can do this xxx
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Old 15th August 2017, 10:29 AM   #2
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Re: 2004

I think you got to the place where you had to leave. Pornography (mental adultery) is really unfaithfulness and had a detrimental affect on the marriage. Well done for getting free and having the courage to be alone. A lot of people are very happy that way but it doesn't rule out meeting the right person down the line now that you have far more wisdom.
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