asking for your prayers

[hurt and confused]

Hello,

My wife and i are currently going to our church through an enrich program to try and save our 12 year marriage. Through this program i realized that a self esteem issue is part of the reasons that have caused us to have the problems that we are experiencing. The biggest one being her having an affair. I do not believe that she is completely convinced that this other man is worth leaving our marriage for, because she has not gone yet. I ask for your prayers to help her find the answers that she is looking for, to give me the wisdom to say and do the right things to fill the void she is feeling, and to give me the strength to understand and be able to forgive her for the actions that have occured. I also ask that you could say a prayer for our 2 children who are the ones that are ultimately getting hurt the worst through this situation. Thank you!!

[Micou]

I really feel your pain. Just wanted to let you know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. So many people in so much pain . . .

[hurt and confused]

Thank you so much for your reply. We really need all the prayers that we can get right now. She is just soooo confused and making some terrible decisions that are going to affect our entire family for the rest of our lives.

[Micou]

I am so sorry to hear that. I too am in a lot of pain right now and I can fully respect the hell on earth that you are going through.

We have a chapel where I work and we had a mass today. I offered up prayers for you and your family and for everyone who is suffering from heartache in one form or another. God is great.

I am just holding on for dear life right now. Such a horrible, horrible experience that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.

[hurt and confused]

You will be in my prayers as well. I agree that i would not wish this on my worst enemy either. I don't really understand why this is happening and what good will come out of it if any. I try to remain positive that God is using this experience to teach. I just really hope that some time soon i will get it so i can stop hurting.

[Micou]

I understand how you feel. Today has been a particularly bad day for me as I find that I have been unable to concentrate on any of my work and I am making silly mistakes. I keep praying that this dark, heavy, oppressive veil will soon lift off me and I can breathe again. I am trying so hard to smile and be happy, but there is a heavy rock that sits on my heart and won't let me feel any happiness.

I too am hoping that there is a lesson in this and that soon it will all become clear and everything will be alright. It's so hard to try and act like you're fine when you are dying inside!

Keep the faith. God is great.

[clockwork orange]

Too right Raymond. That said, giving up the other was possibly the hardest thing I have ever had to do. What finally did it was God showing me how it was never a true friendship at all and using the other to break my heart. I'm not sure I would have been able to break away on my own because it was a highly addictive relationship. I am still going through the withdrawal symptoms. In the end it was quite literally let God do His thing or I was going to die. I have not seen the other for almost a month now and still have weepy spells and so on. But I know that I have done what was right and that God will honour that.