Thank you Raymond for taking your time to respond, we have spoken and have discussed therapy and we will commit to seeing a marriage counselor about our issues. Currently it still isn't a pleasant atmosphere, where I do feel extremely hurt by his lack of emotions and lack of romantic interest. He says that he has mentally checked out on me for these past few years because of the negativity I have brought to our marriage, (me threatening to leave if things don't get better, etc, etc,) which I admit I do say sometimes when I am angry and I want to make my message to him clear. I wanted a marriage with love and intimacy and respect, where we both feel loved and not forgotten about. He has become a workaholic and works about 60 hr weeks and travels every month for business. And sometimes he doesn't even call or txt me when he is gone. Of course any woman would be upset or maybe even a little jealous of all the time his career has taken up. Our last "date night" where he actually made a reservation at a restaurant was back in July 2015 and it's now March 2016. He also explains his lack of effort to our romantic life to stem from his resentment towards me and what I said about a divorce, he says he doesn't want to keep investing time and effort into a marriage that may not last for much longer. I hope that counseling will give us some real insight on whether things will change and if he is even invested in us any longer. I am glad to hear that there are actually husbands out there who love their wives the way they are and not just their appearances. It's hard for mothers to try to dress up and look nice but always try to encourage your wife that appearance are important in a relationship and to her personal/mental health. Take her to spa days and have her get her hair done this way she will feel like she should dress up to go with the hair!
This is silly to say but I am truly jealous of your wife and other woman who have men like you in their lives! I grew up in a world where we are never good enough, we have to be smart, successful, look like a model, be talented and wealthy or we are pretty much worth less. and it's depressing that now I know that I ended up in a relationship where this in fact is true. But what kind of parents would we be if we both didn't give it a fighting chance. So to therapy we go!
xo CaliLove.