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Originally Posted by PDXguy
My wife has a recurring anger problem that reveals itself when she comes home from a busy, frustrating day at work. Normally, she gets home before I do and prepares dinner. Yesterday however, I came home before she did. When she came home, she lashed out at me in anger and it turned into a fairly major argument. Her reason was that I hadn't prepared dinner.
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Are you sure it is her anger problem? Anger is a sign of something else, never a problem in itself.
She probably thought you would be kind enough to make dinner for a change so she didn't have to arrive home, find you diddling with something else, and then have to spend her time preparing dinner in a two-income household when she probably wanted to veg out for a change on the couch while YOU treat her to dinner. But you didn't. What you were doing was more important, not her.
Ouch!
If you find yourself at home early and you can't get dinner made or at least prepared, call her and let her know. Give her a head's up and not let it be a surprise. Maybe you can at least get a few things ready or just set the table? Tell her that you will clean up after dinner since you weren't able to get to it for her. Show SOME effort, my man.
Women need to vent after work. To her, you absorbed all the venting time and left her with chores. You gave her more to vent about. You got a lashing. Next time, just bend over and get it over with. I used to get yelled at all the time for just about anything. Then I learned that women just want to vent. They aren't really interested in advice or your commentary. So, jumping into the ventilator will only chop you up to pieces.
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Originally Posted by PDXguy
Granted, I had not, but what I was doing was very important.
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And nothing she does is important besides making dinner? Have you ever had discussions regarding any important things she would like to do besides make dinner for you every day?
You got some kissing up to do, my friend. If the above suggestions don't work for now, maybe bring home dinner or take her out to her favorite munchy place. More difficult to vent/lash against you in public. Ocassionally interupt her when she is talking to tell her how beautiful she looks even after a long day at work (and mean it too!). Then let her go back to venting if she wants. Just shut up and listen and admire your lovely guest.
Look! No dishes to do either.
Hopeful