To answer your question specifically:
Christian marriage is about equal but different roles for husband and wives. In a nutshell: In a Christian marriage, wives respect their husbands and follow the husband's lead - BUT as household leaders, husbands are to love and serve their wives as Christ served the Church. Husbands earn their respect by being selfless and leading by example.
If you want to know more and see Bible references, see the article on
Biblical Marriage and follow the links therein.
I hope this can help you in some way - perhaps your husband could use some of the tips on the site linked above to learn more about how a man is supposed to treat his wife.
Without knowing the details of your situation, I cannot comment more. But I can say that I pray that you will get over this early bump in the road and build a strong lasting marriage.
Sincerely,