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Originally Posted by crush
He has such an issue with me talking to my ex h it is ridiculous. When I say anything about the time he spends with ex w all I get is well "i will move out then". I don't think he would mind you but I don't like the threats when I hit a nerve. It is all about him being amicable with ex w which I have no objection to but it has to be double sided. Again I refer to email to ex gf which still has not been mentioned. If I had done it I would never hear the end of it all, I just know. He has probably discussed this with ex w too. I just feel like the "other woman" and it does not feel very nice.
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The issues involved are all about him and his previous life but not dealing with it makes us unable to move forward, he doesnt get that at all. It seems to be his way or no way which isnt fair in my mind. You have to be equal in any relationship and yes I am carrying him financially at the moment but nothing will make him do the right thing. I am completely at a loss.
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Crush the threats that he makes to move out when you challenge him on the unfairness of all this is very manipulative. Yes he hasnt cut those ties and he will never be ready for another relationship until he does. You need to make it clear that as long as he keeps that relationship with HIS ex, you will do the same with YOUR ex.
If he makes threats then let him. If he moves out then let him.To be honest he is not giving much to this relationship is he, and he isnt treating you with any respect at all.
When I met my husband, his ex, despite having met another man and divorcing him, hadnt cut the ties. She still expected him to do things for her and sort out her paperwork etc even after WE married. Their children were 18 and 21 so there was no need for them to have any contact. In the end my husband had to be firm and say that she wasnt to contact him any more unless it was an emergency concerning the boys. She never has. If one wont cut those ties then the other needs to, but it seems that in this case neither wants to do that.