Wife keeps bringing up the past
Hey folks, how you all doing?
Come closer, sit down and listen to my story...
Me and my wife have been married 5 years now, from the get go there were many arguments and I couldn't understand why.
Eventually I found out that she is an extremely jealous person, if I have any female friends in person or even on Facebook she would always bring it up and say wildly crazy things. This led to me disabling my Facebook account and not having any female friends.
It wasn't enough though, at my workplace there are only females, even that she is not happy with.
Truthfully when we first were together, I have to admit I wasn't a good guy at all. I used to spend a lot of time with my friends, both male and female and I felt like I gave them more priority than my wife.
A few years down the line, my wife became pregnant. It's then I started to pay more attention to my wife and our soon to be child.
I spent more time with her, did all the house work, went out less etc.
Once my child was born, I went through a radical change, one that I didn't expect to go through to be honest. My whole life now revolves around my beautiful daughter and her well being.
This also changes my daily routine which is now as follows;
Wake up in the morning, clean the house, play with my daughter, go to work, come home play with my daughter.
I am only giving one side of the story, and that's mine which I know is unfair for my wife. But it feels like no matter how much I change, how good a father or husband I am, the wife will always bring up the past.
My wife doesn't work and also sends our daughter to a young child school so she has a lot of time on her hands. She is a very emotional person and gets angry easily, this leads to arguments which I hate. Especially since we've become role models for our daughter, I wish she would calmly and logically talk about the problem, but she cannot.
What I want from her is to see some sort of professional, join a club, group or get a hobby so that she can maybe relive her stress/anger or whatever she has.
Any advice from any of you guys would be greatly appreciated, criticism is also highly appreciated!!
Many thanks.
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