Need some advice, not sure what to do.
I am desperately in love with my wife, so much so I would find it very hard to adjust if we were to seperate. The problem is I haven't been paying her the attention she needs, she has always put herself out for me, done things for me to "please" me. On the flipside I can't say I have done the same, It's almost like becoming comfortable with the whole marriage situation, almost like, well I have you know, time to chill out. My wife had an affair a few years ago (Because of me) and we worked through it, she moved job, and we sold the house and moved to a completely new area. I thought everything was fine, however, last year she went home for a couple of weeks. It was then that she realised how much she does, when she came back home she vented her frustration, I could see her point of view but only when it was spelled out for me. That situation has now changed and I am doing more for her. Her mum died very suddenly a couple of years ago and I don't think she has ever come to terms properly the loss, her mum was quite young when she died (55) and my wife and her mum were very close. We had a set to recently about my wife's car, the car was having problems and she asked me to sort it out, I don't know why but I didn't. She went to her dad's with the kids and the car packed up, her dad had already gone out so she was stuck. She broke down uncoontrolabbly in the car and got her brother to help. This prompted her to buy a new car and dumbass here got upset because she didn't involve me (can't blame her really). I love my wife so much, but as she says, love isn't everything. I found an email on her machine from a friend she has from back home, and it's all about someone she had feelings for, she says that she feels trapped and that one day her lock will get picked. I don't mean to do the things I do, I'm not a malicious person, I just don't think! I don't want to lose my wife and would do anything to remedy the situation, would seeking some sort of help be of use? My wife is a wonderful person, loving, caring etc, I can see it but I just don't appreciate it properly. What I am afraid of is her finally walking out and calling it a day, I want to "get in there" before this happens and try and sort things out. I wanted to suggest we renew our wedding vows, but now I am not so sure about the reaction I will get from my wife.
Last edited by the_phat_controlleruk; 30th March 2009 at 01:29 PM.
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