Re: Emotional support?
Time to wear the big boy pants and man up. Sorry, but its true. My wife was exactly like you for most our marriage. Always questioning me and always assuming the worst of me. I couldnt understand it. Its not like I had female friends. They were more like acquaintances. The only time I had conversations with these women would be on the train (commuting) in a group setting.
I wont lie, it bothered the crap out of me. An affair was the furthest thing from my mind. However, just like you, I did keep little things from her basically to save myself from having an argument. Well you know what, I didnt realize what she was really telling me. And I suspect its the same for her. She didnt know how much I loved her. This went on for a couple of years. Until last April.
Last April was when my wife had an affair. She bottled that up for awhile. It was mostly an emotional affair but it did a fair amount of damage to our relationship. We both ended up sweeping "our" issues under the rug until finally all hell broke loose. She asked for a separation to think about things and finally a month later, told me about her affair.
The good news, we are both back together. Surprisingly stronger than before. However, it took patience and THERAPY for me to feel good about myself and for my wife to feel good about herself. I mean individual therapy as well. What it comes down to is your actually enabling her to act the way she does. I did the same for years. I think if you are looking for emotional support, you may want to start by talking to a therapist. Not a couples therapist. Just start there and see where it goes. Because having an affair without trying to talk to the woman you married about your issues with her, is immature.
I hope that didnt come across as being harsh. I dont mean any disrespect.
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