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Old 9th January 2015, 09:02 PM   #46
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Re: Help My wife says she is in love with someone else

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You have every choice, if she asks you to leave(so that she can have her affair in the open)simply say that as she is the one who wants out of the marriage then she needs to leave. That neither you nor the children should have to be torn from the home when you have done nothing wrong. Then the ball is on her court, her affair wont last but then you will need to decide if you could trust her again after all this. If you can afford it buy her out, and let her go and mess up her life.
I have already tried that she won't leave.
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Old 9th January 2015, 09:02 PM   #47
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I was suggesting that he remains with the children in their home and she leave. If he leaves, he will have no home because she will refuse to sell it or buy him out. She may even move the other man in once he is gone.
Hi chosen. Apologies. I just re read your post and realised I miss interpreted what you mean. I agree with you, and have said so twice so far. Leaving is the worst thing he can do. My bad.
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Old 9th January 2015, 09:05 PM   #48
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It looks like I am stuck in a house with a woman that doesn't love me but I love her. We will just have to life different lives.
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Old 9th January 2015, 09:06 PM   #49
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I have already tried that she won't leave.
You don't want her to leave, right? I know you're at a low point. So was I but you need to man up. Go back to the plan and put it in action, starting NOW. Get out tonight. Seriously make it look like you're not bothered. Tell her you're off out with your mates, give yourself a break for an hour or to. Clear your head and start again in the morning.
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Old 9th January 2015, 09:08 PM   #50
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You don't want her to leave, right? I know you're at a low point. So was I but you need to man up. Go back to the plan and put it in action, starting NOW. Get out tonight. Seriously make it look like you're not bothered. Tell her you're off out with your mates, give yourself a break for an hour or to. Clear your head and start again in the morning.
Ok she is at work so I can't go out. I am going out tomorrow night but have nowhere to go really. I put all my life into the marriage and don't have friends to particularly go out with. She has used this as an excuse to split out time and go out with him on Sunday.
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Old 9th January 2015, 09:30 PM   #51
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Ok she is at work so I can't go out. I am going out tomorrow night but have nowhere to go really. I put all my life into the marriage and don't have friends to particularly go out with. She has used this as an excuse to split out time and go out with him on Sunday.
And there it is. That's a big part of why you are here mate. You rely on her for all your social interactions. Women hate that. Sorry dude but girls like popular men. So join a club, a gym. Take a class, download the meet up ap and go socialising. Even for your own benifit, you need to make pals. Male pals. Can't you phone some old school buddies?
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Old 9th January 2015, 09:33 PM   #52
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[QUOTE=notDoneYet;81389]And there it is. That's a big part of why you are here mate. You rely on her for all your social interactions. Women hate that. Sorry dude but girls like popular men. So join a club, a gym. Take a class, download the meet up ap and go socialising. Even for your own benifit, you need to make pals. Male pals. Can't you phone some old school buddies?[

Ok I'll do that. I have been trying to get them to come out but they all have kids too.
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Old 9th January 2015, 10:19 PM   #53
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Me to mate, but if you have some buddy's house you can go to for a couple of hours?
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Old 9th January 2015, 10:28 PM   #54
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I have already tried that she won't leave.
Thats her choice but that doesnt mean that you should. Stand your ground here.
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Old 9th January 2015, 10:29 PM   #55
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Ok she is at work so I can't go out. I am going out tomorrow night but have nowhere to go really. I put all my life into the marriage and don't have friends to particularly go out with. She has used this as an excuse to split out time and go out with him on Sunday.
Just go out anyway even if you go and see a film on your own.
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Old 9th January 2015, 10:31 PM   #56
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Think I should just go to bed . The problem is that if I start going out without her I lose the family time which brings her back to me.
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Old 9th January 2015, 10:32 PM   #57
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Just go out anyway even if you go and see a film on your own.
Hear hear. But don't tell her where you are going. As far as she's concerned you are going out. And that's all the information you give her.
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Old 9th January 2015, 10:34 PM   #58
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She is at work until midnight.
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Old 10th January 2015, 05:39 AM   #59
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She is at work until midnight.
when she isnt at work.
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Old 10th January 2015, 07:34 AM   #60
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Well, sorry guys. I take everything back. I thought I had a handle on my relationship but clearly I dont. I'm now packing to leave for good. Good luck to you all.
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