Afternoon All....
Been away for a while, but now feeling great.
And here's why.......
Thursday last week I decided to drive home to have 1 last attempt at reconciling with my wife.
I arrive at 7:30, to see another car on the drive.
So I walk up to the window and peer into the front room, only to see my wife lying on the sofa with another man!! Kissing, cuddling and groping
each other
First thoughts were "kill him", but then I thought, no. And the reason why I thought no is because 1. I knew he would ring the police 2. I just felt numb - I didn't even get angry.
So the other man runs off as quick as he could (I actually let him through the door)
Wife says the usual "it's not what it looks like" - so I just said I'm going to get my son and go. At which point she starts to cry and says I'll never get to see him again and she'll make sure I never see him again.
So I drive off with my son.
5 Mins later, in the town centre, I am surrounded by 6 police cars and dragged from my vehicle.
ARRESTED! what for?
1. Assault - wife claimed I hit her and strangled her, I even picked her up and dumped her on her back apparently. - 2/3 years in jail
2. Kidnap - caimed I kidnapped my son - 2 years in jail
3. Criminal damage - said I broke her car door handles - yes I did, but I was trying to get my sons car seat out of her car and didn't do it intentionally - 1/2 years in jail
4. Child neglect - claims I was seen driving from the street with my son on my lap and not in a car seat - the claims were from Mother-in-law and wife. - Can be up to 4 years in jail
5. Theft - when loverboy ran out of the house, he left his sat Nav on the side - so I picked it up and asked who's it was - W replied "Mine" - even wrote in her police statement it was hers - a year in jail maybe?
Anyway, after 17 hours in a police cell, the police were trying to convict me of all sorts - but W changed her story twice and no evidence was forth coming - no eye witnesses to me apparrently strangling her in the street, (in full view of the neighbours may I add)
I was let go free of charge, but received a caution for breaking her car door handles - which I admit to doing.
She had no marks on her, no sign of this "wild struggling fight" that we supposedly had - the house was spotless!
In the 17 hrs in the cell, I have never thought so hard in my life. When was the last time I was happy? What does she exactly "do" for me?
And the answers - it's all in my other post "how can I get her to realise what she's losing?"
I was happy for maybe 1 year, but that's it.
I have had some good times, and I don't feel bitter at all.
I am quite happy and feel fine. I don't have to put up wit her tantrums, strops, wild fists, verbal and physical abuse.
2 good things have come out of this relationship
My son, and the valuable life experience I have gained.
Re: the divorce, I have ben collecting evidence.
The solicitors are rubbing their hands because all the evidence is so heavily against her, they really think she is F*CKED!
So far I have
Proof she was out with him (photo) and also a txt message from the same night saying she was at home in bed by 10pm. Yet the date and time on the photo, clearly state that 3 hrs later, she was out with loverboy.
Witnesses who will give statements to say that loverboy has been staying at the house ever since I left a week ago.
His name, address, shoe size, - everything about him to cite him as the 3rd party in the divorce.
Testaments from her two friends to say that they have witnessed my W out with him - and I must make an apologie to both of them - all the stories my wife had been telling me about them two....they were all completely false.
But the unbelieveable thing is that her parents say she has done nothing wrong - NOTHING WRONG?!?! I'm better off out of it and I certainly don't want any kind of contact with them. They are idiots.
Solicitor says it will be very interesting to see what grounds she asks for a divorce on - she said in the witness statement to the police that she will be filing for divorce tomorrow, so my solicitor said wait and see what she says first - because she has no evidence of me being unreasonable, no evidence of adultery. Solicitor thinks she will state that we have simply grown apart.
By the sounds of it, they think that she will be found guilty of adultery and they're 99% certain wih all the evidence, that it will go in my favour.
So I could ven end up with my son full time!
I don't feel how I thougt I would feel. Considering I thought I would be distraught if I ever caught my W with another man, I actually feel good.
And the reason why I feel good - because I'm not wondering.
I know who, when, where, why, how, etc., And I am no oil painting, and even her friends have agreed with me - he is absolutely frickin' minging. He's fat, ginger, going bald....but he has MONEY!
Which brings me to my conclusion, that she was never with me for me. She was in the relationship for what she could get.
I feel good, like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
I now have closure