Hey there
What you are facing is really tough to come to terms with, but your wife has chosen to stay with you. It takes time and effort to work through the pain and betrayal of infidelity.
It must also hurt that she says she loves him still.
Love is an easy word to use which can mean so many different things. Right now she is drawn to this man, but also cares for you. Eventually she will have to really choose to commit herself to one or other of you. Right now she is probably very confused.
Why not have a look at some of the articles on
infidelity on the site to see if you can find some help there. I hope the counselling proves helpful. Be prepared it will be painful if you both want to address the issues in your marriage and make it work.
Liz