Hi
I am new
Stumbled across this forum searching for answers.
Up until a week ago I thought I had it all, wedding booked, my soulmate and never thought this could happen.
My Fiance has seemed a little distant at times but I just assumed he was stressed and took our relationship for granted. I have a 12 year old daughter from a previous relationship and we have been a couple for 5 1/2 years, previous to that we were best friends for another 5 years, he said he was in love with me but I was in a relationship.
Over the past year we have had a lot of stress, he started his own business which failed and lots of money worries and although we had lots of cuddles and tons in common our sex life dwindled.
He has been on nights at a new job in the city and has been 'odd' with me, didn't reply when I said I loved him and when he got home on Sunday I decided to insist he tell what was wrong.We had had a conversation prev week and had decided to cancel/postpone our wedding because so many of our friends are divorcing/separating.
Never expected the answer I got, he said he didn't know if he was in love with me anymore ! Its taking 2 days to get to the bottom of it all but he says he loves me, I am his best friend and he never wants to not see me but is really confused. says I pushed him away so much for so long he learnt to take care of himself and doesn't think he feels the same way anymore.
Said he felt so bad as felt relieved when we cancelled wedding.
He has agreed to try and work this out and even go to counselling, he cries, I cry , he has fallen out with his family over it and I am the only person he will talk to, we are so so close again. Says he hates himself for doing this to me but couldn't go on like it.
Feels trapped and wants to see the world, holds me so tight at night but no intimacy as he doesn't want me to feel everything is ok ?
Doesn't want me to have false hope that everything is ok and then its not.
He says he doesn't know if he wants to leave and then breaks his heart crying and get so upset when I cry.
It took us so long to get together and we just 'fit' everyone says we are perfect together. I don't understand whats happening or where I go from here ..........
Sorry for rambling, just all came bursting out
Sara