He doesn't want me to go to school!
my husband and I have been together for 10 years (living together) and married for the last three. After a 20 year break from school, I am finally in my last month of the completion of my Bachelors Degree. It took me three years to complete it while continuing to work my salaried management job, and during this time my husband was incredibly unsupportive. Often, he would dismiss my education as unnecessary as I have a good career now and refer it my studies as "garbage". In addition, he would angrily complain about how I never spent time with him. To be fair, I have spent time with him during my schooling but I have felt that because I am not able to do so when it is convenient for him, he becomes even more unsupportive and at times angry. Nonetheless, as I said I will graduate next month and he has even refused to take time away from work to travel to and attend my graduation.
Finally, I would now like to attend Grad school and I haven't dared bring up the subject because of his opinion of my dreams. (In fact, when I said that I was graduating soon, he said "Good you are finally done with this crap. If this nonsense were going to go on, I would divorce you.") When I have previously discussed how I fee for him not supporting my ambitions and dreams, he has said that he cannot support something so ridiculous as it is the same as it would be to ask me to support his dream of working on an oil rig in the middle of the ocean where he wouldn't see me for a year (if indeed that were his dream--he was using this extreme example in comparison of me attending my online classes). In any event, I want to continue my education as. A Masters Degree is my dream but am not sure what to do or if I am in the wrong (I don't feel like I am). What should I do or say here?? I want to keep the harmony but not necessarily at the expense of my dreams. I'm becoming somewhat agitated by his seemingly needy and controlling behavior. Please advise.
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