Re: Mother and wife that hate eachother
I think that both your wife and mother are behaving very badly. If you promised that you would live alone after marriage then you have broken your word. I believe that it is vital for a newly married couple to live in their own home and there is NO way that I would ever inflict myself on any of my children in that way.
Surely if you sell the home she can buy her self a small flat in a sheltered housing place for example? If you have other siblings then they need to share her care, but your mother must accept that you are married and that your first priority must always be your wife now. However I have to ask why on earth you married such a controlling and difficult lady, but much of that may be due to the mothers terrible behaviour and her not accepting your new wife. YOu wife must feel very rejected.
So the priority is to get a place of your own, even if its just a small rented apartment to begin with. IF your mother REALLY cant cope alone(how old is she actually?)then you will have to work out a system with your siblings where you can all help, maybe each visiting once or twice a week, and she could also get a carer to go in sometimes if she is that incapable.
I have to say that if my spouse was violent towards me as yours is, there is no way I would stay with them.
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