Is there something going on?

[Helen_uk]

Say to her that you'd really have preferred not to have had to look , but her behaviour has been causing you so much pain you felt you needed to know what was happening .

They always go with the " You're invading my privacy " thing , however there is a huge difference between privacy and secrecy and there shouldn't be secrets in a marriage.

Try not to allow her to deflect what she's doing by turning the conversations into accusations against you . She is the one doing wrong, not you. I've found a partner rarely has a problem with you looking at their phone unless they have something to hide.