We have been married for 12 years. We have not been able to have a consistent sex life since our marriage has begun. Our current "drought has lasted six weeks and counting.
After talking for several hours, we discovered that we both suffer from feeling rejected from previous sexual advances towards each other. We are not willing to move outside our emotional comfort zone because the pain of being rejected again is too great for either of us.
Additionally, we are having difficutly making quality time for each other. I am an entrepreneur with about 100 employees. Eventhough I have set-aside the weekends for the family, my schedule is fluid and unpredictable.
My wife is a stay-at-home mom with one child (4) whom she home schools. Her approach to our marriage is that she will squeeze sex in as she can. (Currently 1am is the time on the table
) She says that she would perfer to do all her other activities before she connects with me. This is partly because she does not want to set aside "prime time" and then I am unable to make it because of work. I suggested that she be more flexible with her schedule since she is at home but she is unwilling to "wait around" just in case I come home at a reasonable hour or
How can my wife and I both experience healing from the pain of previous rejection for each other so that we may move forward?
I look forward to your insight."