Dear Kazza
I understand why you feel angry, but slamming doors probably won't achieve much. Have you tried to sit down and explain to your husband how you feel when he is looking at other women or porn. Whatever Marcus says, you are feeling hurt and unloved when he behaves that way. I would have thought most men who love their wives would be willing to sacrifice their own physical urges to ensure their woman knew she was really special to them. Perhaps he needs to know
what would ensure that YOU knew you were loved.
Husbands may be convinced that they love their wife and the porn doesn't matter, but they could try and stand in their wives shoes and see it from their point of view.
On the other hand, we cannot depend totally on husband's behaviour towards us for our own self worth. Are there things you could do to trim up your figure a bit and to ensure that you look as good as possible for your man. Then he really would have no excuse for looking else where and you would feel good about yourself too.
I think that men do enjoy looking at attractive women and that's quite natural, which I expect is some of what Marcus is getting at. They just need to be aware of how their behaviour affects their wives, don't they.
With best wishes
Liz