Re: Sex and marriage problems
Hi Zax.
I’m very sorry to hear about your problems, but I would just like to take the point of Liz about communication a little bit further. Your wife’s lack of intimacy could be her way of communicating her dissatisfaction with the marriage especially if she has felt has spent years trying to talk to you and realised she wasn’t getting through. You on the other may feel there is absolutely nothing wrong with your marriage apart from the lack of sex.
I would suggest you try and drop you requests for sex (for now) as your wife may feel pressurised and just listen intently when she speaks. You may pick up some clues, ie if you feels she nags when she talks and you switch off, she may actually be trying to express her need to you , so listen, listen, listen when she talks. Also the romancing etc which Liz talks about would be a good start, but if you do this, it shouldn’t be done with sole purpose of getting sex, it should be all about making her feel good about herself and your marriage.
Your worst case scenario could be that she doesn’t want sex with you because she is getting it from elsewhere. You’ve already highlighted that she masturbates on her own, well another man could be a possibility, but I sincerely hope this isn’t the case in your storey.
Take care and work on you marriage.
Lan
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