Re: I'm worried my wife might be cheating
Thank you for the input and advice. I do agree that there is nothing concrete to say she is up to anything. I think I am just being very suspicious because of the way she has been acting lately and it's taking me right back to when I found out that she had cheated. She acted very similar then. Plus, those occasions I mentioned where I found messages were the only times I tried to find anything. That makes me wonder whether there are other times that I haven't known about. Or is it just a coincidence? I don't make a habit of checking on her all the time and wish that I never had the urge to. I hate the fact that I am suspicious of her at all and really want to trust her the way I used to.
I also think that some of her male friends over step the mark in my eyes which gets my back up and creates tension. For example, the guy who's messages she deleted sent her messages when we were on our honeymoon 'jokingly' telling her to cut her honeymoon short cos he needed a shoulder to cry on after he had some relationship trouble of his own. The day we arrived home she couldn't get round to his house quick enough and left me to unpack and take care of all the house chores even though I had just driven a 6 hour drive home from the airport in the early hours of the morning whilst she slept the whole way. We had a massive row as she left the house instead of enjoying being home and feeling great after the amazing trip we just had together.
She has always been a flirty type of person with a lot of male friends. However, a lot of those friendships usually end with the guy telling her how much he loves her and wants to be with her. But before that happens I get accused of being jealous if I have any problem with those friendships. That topic has always been an issue with our relationship until the past few years when I just gave up saying anything to avoid more rows.
But when we are close we are great together. She is my best friend and my soul mate and it would kill me if I new she was seeing someone else again. I'll definitely be keeping my antenna up but I just hope it's me being overly sensitive right now.
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