Re: Is Reconciling the answer?
Hi Zed,
I would also echo the sentiments expressed so far. The fact is, your wife wants to reconcile not because her former lover uses drugs and booze. (After all, she knew this before she flew out to see him). No, she wants to reconcile with you a) because her former lover is now engaged to be married and she cannot get one over on the other woman and b) because she wanted him to treat her like his long lost princess and he didn't.
What a shame for her...
It is clear from the fact that he lied to her that he was not interested in giving up his fiancee for her. What he was probably hoping for was to have your wife on the side. Not an arrangement she is comfortable with hence she is now running back to you. I agree with Disbelief and Markus. The minute 'someone better' (to her mind) comes along she will be off again. Her future with this man wasn't even sure or secure but she still ran off and risked destroying her marriage to 'see if there was a spark'. She may be talking about coming back to you now but what she is also talking about is compromise. She isn't coming back to you because she wants to. She is coming back because he isn't as available as she would like him to be.
You mess with women like that at your peril. Speaking as another woman, I would say don't go there...
Helen
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