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Old 3rd March 2016, 04:46 PM   #10
Raymond
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Re: My next move? Help/Advice needed.

It seems like we are moving to the EU model where you are guilty on anyone's heresay until proved innocent.

This is a terrible story of temptation leading to deception and adultery. Any trust will have gone by now I would think, unless she comes back on her knees fully repentant.

The best tact now is to accept it as a done deed and try to adjust to it, as terrible as it is and it is terrible. In cases where loss is not fully accepted long term depression can follow, so I would concentrate on accepting the loss, as difficult as that is. Being bitter and unforgiving against her will damage you much more than her also. If she raises it again that is something else, but grovelling doesn't help anyone and could make things much worse.

I really sympathise with you over this violent attack to the centre of your being. As Chosen said you are better off without her if she can act in such a way.
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