Yes, I believe marriage is meant to be for life, and that God's grace is available to help with that. Do you have a wise Christian friend or friends who you can ask to pray with you, perhaps the leadership in your church? Spiritually you need to be set free from the bonds that are formed when you have a sexual relationship outside marriage, and you need to acknowledge to God that it was wrong and receive assurance of forgiveness. There is no sin that cannot be dealt with by the blood of Jesus.
The problems you are experiencing will be rooted in what you did, but can be worked through. Remember love and marriage are about commitment and decisions, rather than just feelings. Our feelings are a sign of what is going on inside, but not the barometer on which to make decisions about your future.
If you cannot find someone to pray with you, you can ask God for forgiveness and healing yourselves. It helps though to have someone to support you and encourage you through.
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