Very Sad at this time and I hurt so bad. I believe I should call it quits??
Been together 19 yrs.. married for 15.. In June of 2015 I found out my hubby was having a "emotional fantasy" phone affair (as he called it later) with a women from out of state, some months the phone call records show 500-600-700 min. per month, at all hours of the day and very late at night..I knew nothing of this nor did her fiance(come to find out later) I was either at work or out of town.. Made me sick!..Come to find out it all started on face book..and lead to texting and then to the cell phone..I confronted him with my findings and he said it wasn't meant to be sneaky it was just they were reminiscing about things that happened 30 yrs ago when they hung out together.and that there was a chance and talk that they may get together and spend the rest of there lives together.. This went on for 2+ years never had a clue.. he said they never saw each other during this time (which I am having a hard time believing) we live in LV...and everyone visits LV..
Then I find out that he has been replying to women on craigslist-casual encounters-w4m..and visits alot of porn sites..I was just diagnosed with the "HPV" virus and was also told that I have genital herpes...WTF!!! I am 60 yrs old!!! OMG...never had a health issue in my life and now this. He has a drinking problem..he lies all the time, always puts himself 1st...I did not receive even a Christmas card this year (2015)..I don't trust him!! Sometimes I don't think I even like him anymore. I thought marriage was to be with your soul mate, a best friend for life.. WOW am I delusional or what....
Are there any men out there that could explain any of this to me?? I am so lost and sad...I think I just need to move on..PS..no kids involved!!