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Old 20th January 2016, 11:06 AM   #3
Raymond
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Re: Do I give up on my Marriage of 10yrs - together for 17yrs

That he is blaming you for him taking ice is not on. It was his choice to react in that way to a problem he had. It appears that his brothers have a very bad influence on him. I wouldn't do too much work yourself on the marriage at this stage. Let him do it and hopefully he will see where he went wrong. Just accepting him back with open arms without him being repentant about his part is asking for trouble I think.

It may be that these negative feelings about you came from taking ice and he needs to deal with that. Any ordinary marriage problems can be sorted when that is out of the way.

All in all I would ride it through and let him come to himself, if he does. You are going to need patience. Things won't be sorted until he climbs down so don't be in a hurry is my advice. Let him sort things before he comes back. Hopefully that won't be too long if he really loves you.
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