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Old 22nd September 2010, 04:33 AM   #2022
Dakereb
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Re: Living In A Sexless Marriage

But whatever you do, it must be done without malice. Spite leads to regrettable actions and consequences. It poisons you. If his hygiene is reulsive to you, let him know that in a direct, unemotional way, free of spite. The message is that, while you do respect him as a human being, as a child of God, you have a problem with the porn addiction and the bad hygiene and find that you simply have to remove yourself from it. Do not attack his integrity, you can be sure he has more than enough self-loathing. All you should do is tell him how you feel about things, and do so in a way that is free of accusation and anger. He will see that you are simply doing what you need to do for yourself, not doing things just to hurt him. He then cannot shift blame for his behavior to you. He will be forced eventually to come to grips with his issues. And perhaps he will find just enough self-respect to actually do it one day.
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