Marky

This is more of a rant than asking for advice as I have already looked at all the options and none of them are suitable......

I married my now wife just over 7 years ago and prior to our first child we had an excellent relationship, friends, lovers and just generally a good time....

After our first born our sex life went a bit stale but I accepted this and the odd month skipped wasn't that much of an issue but as time went on it started to turn into 2 months and sometimes more....everything was backed up with excuses...

Simple reasons first off, like don't ask me just let it happen, don't ask me to do this and don't ask me to do that etc etc..

Being the person I am I stopped asking, well, that resulted in our first 6 month period of no sex at all.......

I gradually started getting more and more frustrated and arguements started kicking off, the usual small thing turning into full blown rows...

Every time I tried to talk about it I was told to stop going on and her short temper would soon turn it into another arguement and still the reasons for nothing happening kept coming...

We are under each others feet and not enough money became the regular answer to our lack of intimacy....now at the point where we only kiss each other good bye, no cuddles or kisses and on opposite sides of the bed at night.....

I got some extra work which meant less time around each other and also sorted out all the money issues....new excuse, all the stuff that has gone on in the past has sort of put me off it.....I get the feeling I am fighting a loosing battle....

We had a very prolonged period of no sex at all, over 6 months before she mentioned about having another child, I was dead against it due to the relationship but she soon convinved me it was a good chance for us to sort things out.....big mistake, being used as a sperm bank would be an understatement.....although I now have a gorgeous daughter so there are certain parts of it I don't regret.....

Where do we stand now, well my daughter is approaching her 1st b'day and I have had half hearted sex twice with my wife since she concieved, so rapidly approaching 2 years....we stopped having sex the day she knew she was pregnant...and there is no light at the end of the tunnel...

If I leave her I would have to stop my part time work which results in less money for the family, the extra money I would have to give my wife would cripple me financially, also the kids run rings around her and I am the only one who brings a sense of consistancy to the house, they would bring the house down within a week of me moving it......

I have found out that she had a harsh up bringing, her father being an emotionless, aggressive man but she won't talk about her past, she definatley wasn't abused in any way, just very strict up bringing with an emotionally detached father....She definatley will not go for any counciling even tho she was put forward for this by her doctor due to panic attacks and health anxiety issues (now all in the past)

So sexlees for 2 years, a wife who won't talk about it .....and me not willing to walk away from my kids...

Can life get worse.......we will see.