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Old 22nd September 2010, 10:08 PM   #3
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Re: I need help, i don't know if i am in the right place

Originally Posted by jools View Post
I'm not surprised you're in a state! Without knowing more about you and your relationship though it's impossible to guess what's happened here? Just a few questions here to help shed light on the situation (if you don't mind).
!) How old are you?
2) How long have you been together?
3) Have there been any added stresses within the relationship (apart from the forthcoming wedding)
4) Has he "cooled" towards you physically?
5) Whose idea was it to get married?

I'm guessing that the forthcoming wedding has had a lot to do with his need to think - but he's being very cruel and selfish, and could at least include you in his thought process. Is there any chance that he's met someone else? If you answer some of these questions and give as much detail as possible then it might be easier to give a more constructive response.
Love Jools XX
Hi sorry, i am not even thinking straight just babbling sorry.

I am 25 he is 29. we have been together 4 years, and have been engaged for 2 he proposed 3 years ago however his dad passed away within 2 weeks of us getting engaged so we cancelled the wedding plans and then once things calmed down after the shock of loosing his dad we bought our first home together.

On the day that his dad passed away, i discovered he was seeing someone else, but with loosing his dad the same day i couldnt just walk away from him. We finally talked about things and he said this girl was just a friend and never anything more and he just never told me about her because he thought i would think the worse.

i always struggled about this, and i know it is my fault he has left i just never let that go. I always believe that he didnt do anything with that girl but it was just the lieing to me that has annoyed me. so whenever we argued i always brought this up.

i know its my fault he has gone but i just dont know what to do and i just cant stop crying or even hold it together long enough when we speak.

Thank you for responding
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