[Jazz204]

and if you feel you are being treated like a doormat, well so be it. She is in reactive stage, she wants to find herself, wants to shed the grief and the deep problems. Forgive her if she is not the most fair, the most sensitive to your needs, the most anything. I am sure it wont be forever. The pendulum is swinging broadly, she is overreactive, is not herself. What she does now is not going to be the way she is in the future. Serve your wife, read Mother Teresa's words, become a bigger person yourself. It will be worth it.