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chosen · 17th August 2010, 03:48 AM

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It sounds to me as if porn is the issue here. If he is masturbating 2 or 3 times a week to porn then he wont want to have sex.
He needs to stop it now. If he is addicted, that may be easier said than done. Men say that it has nothing to do with how attractive their wives are or whether their wives are willing or not, it is something they get into and its hard to stop.

I think you need to get REALLY serious and tell him that unless he stops the porn completely you will seperate. Then he will have to choose you or the porn. I dont think that many men will stop until they risk loosing everything.If this happened in my marriage that is what I would do (along with lots of praying).

There are blockers that can be put on the computer to stop porn being accessed, or you can check his user history, to see what he has been looking at.Porn is incredibly damaging both to the user and to the spouse. It can and does destroy marriages. I am so sorry for what is happening and it is common for women in your position to feel bad about themselves, but really, the porblems isnt with you, it is with him. He is being unfaithful to you with all these other women, even if it isnt actually physical.
Could you have more counselling and get tough over this? You may have to get tough as many men wont give it up until they actually HAVE to.

17th August 2010, 03:48 AM	#2
chosen Registered User Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 5,794	Re: Love without physical attraction? disoriented It sounds to me as if porn is the issue here. If he is masturbating 2 or 3 times a week to porn then he wont want to have sex. He needs to stop it now. If he is addicted, that may be easier said than done. Men say that it has nothing to do with how attractive their wives are or whether their wives are willing or not, it is something they get into and its hard to stop. I think you need to get REALLY serious and tell him that unless he stops the porn completely you will seperate. Then he will have to choose you or the porn. I dont think that many men will stop until they risk loosing everything.If this happened in my marriage that is what I would do (along with lots of praying). There are blockers that can be put on the computer to stop porn being accessed, or you can check his user history, to see what he has been looking at.Porn is incredibly damaging both to the user and to the spouse. It can and does destroy marriages. I am so sorry for what is happening and it is common for women in your position to feel bad about themselves, but really, the porblems isnt with you, it is with him. He is being unfaithful to you with all these other women, even if it isnt actually physical. Could you have more counselling and get tough over this? You may have to get tough as many men wont give it up until they actually HAVE to.