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Old 23rd May 2007, 10:42 PM   #2
1aokgal
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Re: Your Sister needs help

Dear Altered Heart.....

I am as confused as you seem to be. Now you have "buyers remorse" that the new man/package is not working out? What makes you think your clothes and bags were not tossed out the door when you left your husband? Time does NOT stand still for 5 years. It is highly unlikely that the husband cares to wait for any change of heart from you. It is over ...and he may have moved onto a better life.
He may just need a signature on the papers and you sure owe him that.

It seems you need someone to hold you up...either this one or that one? Do you have a life of your own as work or profession? You said you have sex with neither man. It sounds as if you seek lucky #3 now to keep you secure since these two have not worked out. Something is seriously wrong that you say you love them equally and have sex with neither. I see you say you gave your everything to both???? What did you give to either? You sure did not give honesty and closure to the husband. What is chasing behind you in the latest situation? ?
I think you look for a soft spot to land now and things at the present location are not good. I feel you are very depressed and should seek some counselling. You also may need some training to acheive some skills to make your way that does not depend on another. Sad thing is the husband may need closure and a divorce so he can move on into a healthier relationship. I would close that door. Then you can seek your strengths to define who you are and what you can do to make yourself happier. You escaped from your marriage rather than work through closure or problems.

This means one usually brings a bag of problems from the last marriage to the present. Baggage never adds positive elements to a new relationship.
Good luck on some soul searching and finding your own strength.
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