[Helen_uk]

As you're selling the phone for her it's perfectly natural you would check it . I'd tell her you've done so but not in an accusatory way. If she then wants to talk to you about what happened while you were apart that's her choice. Because you WERE apart and that does make a difference-though it doesn't hurt any less I know .

Then sell the phone and get on with getting your lives back together as a couple. Love means nothing without trust and you've already taken the decision to forgive and rekindle the marriage. I can't see that anything can be achived by holding onto the past. Live in the now... It's all any of us have.

Good luck

Helen