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Old 17th April 2014, 01:53 PM   #4
ronnoco
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Re: Wife is confused

Lost - I think I know what's happening here.

Because you love your wife so much and don't want to loose her, and are scared, your mind isn't correctly digesting what has happened. You need to research "5 stages of grief" on Google because right now, you are in shock. You just want everything tyo be like it was but it's not going to be that simple. You need a reality check.

Please listen to Raymond and Chosen as I can guarantee you they are correct.

The biggest problem you have now is your wife is literally having her cake and eating it and you are actually allowing this to happen!

If you turned around and said to your wife "pack your bags, get out, we're finished!" - her world would probably crumble. I'm not suggesting you actually do this but seriously, you can't go on as you are. Your wife has taken a diabolic liberty here. Her behavior is appalling. Don't be scared now - stand up for yourself and what is right. Your wife is taking advantage of your good nature - no more Mr nice guy - you can't just be a safety net for her - you wont last.

Have a look at these, the second bullet point of the 1st link is particularly important : -

http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/16

http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/127

All the best and keep posting.
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