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Old 22nd August 2011, 10:03 AM   #8
Chamomile
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Re: My husband's internet activity is gay, transexual, tranvestite sites

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Originally Posted by 1aokgal View Post
Dear Hurt..

I hope your husband will be honest with you about his activities. I imagine you are in a state of high anxiety. I feel strongly that you should schedule a GYN checkup and have an AIDS test. Then I would refuse to have unprotected sex with your h until he is forthcoming about his interests and activities. The trust factor is damaged. You have no idea of who he is, as he is not what he represented to you, is he?

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Hi

That's a very, very useful post with helpful suggestions of practical steps to take in this type of situation, 1aokgal xxx.

It's not clear if he's also looking at separate gay sites? If so, does this mean that he's a bi-sexual? The websites which he was looking at, are they multiple porn sites (to masturbate over) or strictly "hook up" sites to find someone/ppl to chat, have cyber s*x with or meet to have casual s*x etc?

Do you have active s*x life with him? Is he open to what he "enjoys" in your marital bedroom? He may be finding these sites exciting and attractive and these ppl "turn him on"? Or it's just an escape from "life"?

I agree with 1aokgal, it's the health risk factor, which concerns me most; if he is active offline in his secret "hobby" to satisfy his dark desires...? Or is his marital s*x already dead, in decline (e.g. lack of excitement) or in need of CPR etc?

I should think this area would be the last thing he would be totally honest with his wife as he wouldn't be "unwise" to admit anything else besides whatever was already "discovered" by his wife so far who is struggling with this sudden shock of "betrayal"...or he might want to try to protect his wife's feelings by denying things? Who knows?

How many times was he married before if you don't mind me asking this? Do you think he's a closet cross-dresser who enjoys looking at gay, transsexual, other cd sites from your "investigation" on his track so far, Hurt?

I deeply sympathize with what you are going through. It must be, so so so hard for you.
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