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Old 2nd May 2012, 10:25 PM   #67
chosen
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Re: How do I trust him again?

The reason that you are feeling so jealous and insecure is because you dont trust him and that is normal in the circumstances. Why should you? he has shown that you cant trust him. Also I dont agree that he 'has' to flirt, no one 'has' to flirt. He needs clear boundaries in his job. If he is to be with another woman, then there needs to be another person with them, or a woman colleague should take her round.
I know people in different jobs who will never travel or spend time alone with a member of the opposite sex. There are ways round this. No meals out. No coffees out.

It wont be you that splits you up, it will be your hurt that HE has caused. This is why many people cant stay after an affair, because it damages the very core of the marriage and the intimacy. I admire for you for even being willing to try, I doubt that I could.
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