[AnnSanders]

Raymond, when you said that about him covering his tracks - that's my fear. He is saying all the right things, but he did last time, too. And i caught him this time totally by accident. He was up late watching TV in the den and I went out on the deck from our bedroom, where I can see the TV through the window. He didn't know I was out there. I'm sure he would have quickly changed the channel back to sports if he had heard me walking through the house towards the den. He says he's only done it a few times since the last time, when it totally wrecked our work lives and our home life. If the kids hadn't been away at college it would have been very hard to keep it from them. He admitted yesterday that he doesn't believe it is as big a deal as I think it is. He says he understands why I feel this way but he kind of thinks I over-react. That bothers me, too.